The 6 Staples of My Perfect Pause (that I would have only dreamed of while on TV full time 10 years ago)

Last week, Matt and I headed off to Moab, Utah for a four day break.

We were celebrating his birthday.

At end of it, he said to me, “This felt like a reset. A recharge. I don’t feel that way after most vacations. Thanks for planning it honey.”

That sent me down a rabbit hole of thinking: What made THIS trip such a ‘great pause’ versus Turkey, Paris, and all the other trips we take annually.

Six reasons:

Having my own business.

It’s a huge life shift compared to 10 years ago, when I was getting up at 2:30am to do morning television. As talent, I couldn’t take vacation unless my vetted fill-in’s schedule lined up with mine. And frankly, it was hard to be present for life, and for my partner, because I was ALWAYS &^^&*( tired.

Disconnecting from technology.

Granted, we were glamping for like $600 a night, but wi-fi was limited to the lobby of the resort. None in our respective tents. None while out on the mountain range on a horse. That relieved us of constant notifications. We shared stories. Met strangers. Made s’mores. Watched the sunset. Felt prickly sage brush against our knees.

Being in nature.

Coasting down the Colorado River in a kayak, with a high walls of sandstone as backdrop, was profoundly calming. Each time we went through a set of rapids, we got smacked in the face with ice cold water. On the balance, it reminded me how alive we were. There was something incredibly healing and grounding, sitting on the rocks at Dead Horse State Park.

Adequate Rest.

The best thing about being mid 50s is that we don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Collapsing into bed at 10pm and getting up early to take on the day was our only goal. We got loads of deep rest, breathing in fresh mountain air.


I booked one major activity to anchor the day (and get everyone out of bed). But the rest of the day allowed for unplanned experiences. It led to probably some of the most memorable moments of a vacation. I’ve never been to the Grand Canyon, but I suspect nature’s paintbrush was equally generous when creating the Delicate Arch, where the Olympic torch was once lit.

Reflection Time.

I love writing in my journal, and did that one whole afternoon. I did it in the mornings, hitting the breakfast room at 7am, before everyone woke up. I wrote myself a letter, capturing the feeling of watching tumbleweed roll past, reminiscent of old Western movies and Roadrunner cartoons. I read the letter when I get home and relive the feelings all over again.

What I Did Last week

I detail our trip, day by day, in my new Substack, where I’m doing more writing.

What I’m Looking Forward to

Saturday April 20th. One of my clients is a chef.

He has been sitting on a supper club concept for years. I have been working with him on his storytelling. (I like to create very public events at the culmination of my work with clients.)

I said to him, at the end of our coaching engagement, you are hosting your first supper club for my friends. There are 2 spots remaining if you want to join us.

Friday, April 26th. The Sakhi Gala. Each year, without fail, I attend the Sakhi Gala, which raises funds for a non profit that supports South Asian survivors of domestic violence. It doesn’t hurt that my friend and long time member of the Women’s Leadership Lab Kavita is the Executive Director. I’m a product of a home of domestic violence, so I support for this reason as well.

A member of my mastermind and another former client join me for this black tie evening.


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Janice Whaley CEO, Donor Network West

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