Scripts to Disagree (and do it respectfully)

Adventuress

I don’t know about you, but I need scripts to feel empowered to disagree and do it respectfully. Here are some phrases to tuck into your back pocket

  • Start with Understanding:
  • Acknowledge the other person’s point of view
    • “I see your point, but I think we might consider a different approach.”
    • “I understand where you’re coming from, however…”


  • Use “I” Statements: 
  • Disagreeing from your own perspective keeps you from  sounding like you’re accusing someone
    • “I have a different perspective on this.”
    • “From my experience, I’ve found that…”
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  • Be Specific and Factual: 
  • Focus on specific issues rather than generalities
  • Use facts to support your position.
    • “Based on the data we have, it seems like…”
    • “When I look at the numbers, I notice that…”


  • Rather than just disagreeing, propose alternative ideas or solutions.
      • “What if we tried this method instead?”
      • “Another possibility might be to…”
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  • Seek Common Ground:
  • What can be a foundation for consensus?
      • “I agree with your point on X, though I think we might differ on Y.”
      • “We’re both looking to achieve [common goal], so perhaps we can…”
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  • Stay Calm and Respectful: 
  • Keep your tone calm and avoid emotional language.
      • “I respect your expertise on this, and I’d like to add…”
      • “I appreciate your insight. Let me share my thoughts…”
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  • Ask Questions: 
  • It can be an effective way to express disagreement without being confrontational.
      • “Have we considered the impact of X on this decision?”
      • “What are your thoughts on how this aligns with our goals?”
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  • Acknowledge the Complexity: 
  • Sometimes, issues aren’t black and white.
      • “This is a complex issue with multiple valid points.”
      • “There are several aspects to consider here…”
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  • End on a Positive Note: 
  • Conclude with a comment that reinforces collaboration or positive intent.
    • “I think this discussion is really valuable to finding the best solution.”
    • “I appreciate us having this conversation to explore different options.”



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